Wednesday, February 24, 2016

Turning Negative Self Thoughts to Positive Ones + Premier Protein Giveaway Winner & Share Good Energy Promo

One thing that will keep you from reaching your goals is the way that you talk to yourself and the conversations that you have in your mind.  I don't think that we pay enough attention to what we are saying to ourselves because there are so many outside distractions.  We log into Facebook and read what is going on, visit Instagram and check out all the pictures.  All of this is playing into how we think about ourselves and how we talk to ourselves.  Especially if you are following a lot of fitness pages, like I do.  I think we start to compare and then decide that we are not as______ as someone else.  You must remember that what you see on social media is what people want to you see.  But we all know that there is more to life than what we show our friends and followers on social media.  So we have conversations with ourselves about how we are not as _____ as "Jane" or "Sally".  Which can lead to negative self talk.  Comparison is the thief of joy!  Maybe it comes with age, but I have let that go.  Or Maybe it is because I am a mother now, and I think about myself differently.  I do know that it has taken work and time to change how I talk to myself and the conversations I have with myself.

Fear and Self doubt are two things that most of us face or have faced in the past.  They are the voices in our head that say "You can't do this", "You're not worth it", "Why even bother?".  How do these thoughts get there?  I am not sure?  Television? Social media?  People in our lives?  I am not really sure, I am guessing a mix of those things.  If you follow me on Instagram or Facebook you have probably seen by now that I am doing the TTP program that Amber Dodzweit has designed an I am part of the Ateam, a group of amazing women!  When I started back in January, I filled out the questions in the info that was sent to us and there were two questions that stood out to me.  They had to do with feeling like you deserve success and if you are having doubts about being successful.  I have to say that when I answered them honestly, I cried.  Because at that point I thought that I didn't deserve it and had doubts that I could achieve what I really wanted.  It was then that I realized that I had the power to change my mind about these things and that is what I set out to do.  "Limits, just like fear are often just an illusion."

Someone shared this video by Mateuz M on Facebook and I watched it and it was so inspiring.  It made me feel like I could do anything.  So what I started to do was watch it when I was warming up for a workout, then I would watch the next and the next and each title was pulling me in to watch.  Unbroken, Unstoppable, Why Do We Fall, Desire.  These are all amazing videos.  When you have the time go and watch them, the messages are powerful.  These messages started to seep into my thoughts and when a negative thought crept it I replaced it with something empowering.  I was taking control of my thoughts and my mind.  Have you ever read the quote "The body can handle anything, its the mind you have to convince?"  If there is one thing that I have leaned in my past 7 weeks of working hard at changing my mindset it is this.  We have to train our minds just like we train our bodies.  We have to replace the bad with the good.

One of the voices in the videos I watched and listen to on repeat was Eric Thomas.  He is a motivational speaker and he speaks with such passion that it is hard not to want to run out and get your workout in or start writing your business plan!  He came from nothing, was born in Detroit to a teenage mother and didn't have a father, he was homeless.  But he was able to get himself to where he is now with mindset and hard work.  Look him up on YouTube and watch his videos.

So where am I going with all of this?  The thing that I want to share the most is that if you want to change you have to start with your mind.  You have to decide that you want to change.  You have to find your WHY, the reason you are going to work hard to reach your goals, whatever they may be.  You have to work every day to change the negative self talk that creeps into your mind.  It is a practice that you must master.  I still have doubts or fears that creep in, but I quickly replace those thoughts with a positive one, I don't give power to those thoughts.  I remember my bigger why, the reason that I am working on the things that I am working on.  The things that give my life meaning and why I live with passion.  We only get one chance to live the life we want.  It is possible for you to live the life that you are meant to live.  Find what gives your life passion and pursue that!  Don't ever forget that your thoughts are powerful.  Make them positive!

I would love to hear from you in the comments about how you overcome negative self talk and what goals and dreams you are working on pursuing.  Next week I will share some of the things that I am working on in my personal training/fitness career.

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  1. Wow. I needed this today!! I have a tough workout ahead this mor nong and I have been fretting about it since last nigh . I am trying to tell myself 'you got this!' I am not sure it it is wrong

    I will have to check out that speaker.

    The negative self talk is real sometimes bit I am a work in progress as I try to find the positive and focus on that.


    1. Hi Tamieka, thanks for stopping by today! :-) You totally can do it. Your body can handle anything, it's your mind you have to convince.

      When ever I feel something negative, I say out loud, NOPE! Then I change that negative to a positive. Do that everyday, multiple times a day and your inner dialogue will change. Practice saying kind things to yourself daily, and I promise the negative thoughts will start to subside. :-)

  2. That is so good! I know changing my thoughts and mind set are a huge part of my success in anything that I do...When I was in treatment for my eating disorder back in 2008, most of the work we did was changing our thought process. Shifting what I thought about myself and feeling worth it was a HUGE part of my recovery. It is something I have to keep telling myself every day.
    My husband and I have 'mirror talks' and we remind each other to do them. Spend time looking in the mirror and saying positive things about yourself, even if you may not believe them yet.

  3. Loved this post. It's crazy how easily the comparison trap and negative talk can ruin a day! I get stuck in negative self talk at least once a week. I really try to acknowledge the negativity and figure out why I'm feeling it. I think reminding yourself of your WHY and unique purpose is so important!!

  4. It's so true -- negative self talk can ruin any workout or run! Positive self talk makes a huge difference!

  5. I don't know why we are so hard on ourselves! It is much easier to start the day with a smile and a nod, you got this! Thanks for the sample offer!

  6. Having a blog forces me to be more positive. Who wants to read a bunch of whines and complaints?